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Not-Quite Happy Anniversary

For weeks now I’ve been meaning to write, if for no other reason that I didn’t want this blog to just be about sadness. I promise: I have done a lot of things to make me smile since I last wrote in June (that is shameful. I will do better). But some days I just need to rip the bandaid off, so here goes.

Today would have been our 29th anniversary.

Twenty-nine years ago right now, I was getting ready to walk down the aisle.

One year ago today, Rich was having his last meal.

He chose our anniversary, because he really didn’t feel he had any specific calendar dates to hang on for. His last meal, chosen by him, was champagne and wedding cake. We ate and watched our wedding video. We didn’t talk much. It was pretty hard for him to verbalize at this point, and we frankly didn’t have much more we needed to say. We knew this was basically the end. Of course, we thought it would be a much faster end, but the universe decided it wanted to dick with us some more. I’m not sure why it felt like we needed to be tested. I hope we passed.

I wasn’t sure what I would do today. I couldn’t decide if I should try to commemorate it, or just go about my day. I slept in (which is so weird for me) and then decided to buy myself an anniversary present: a bunch of plants, lol. Rich was pretty adamant about following the “traditional gifts” for anniversaries. Twenty-ninth is evidently furniture. Wonder what he would have done for that?

After I got home. I watched football (as the Vikings lost, I could hear Rich’s regular Sunday refrain “God we suck” rattling in my brain), then Frankie helped me pull weeds. It seems like a regular day, but these were all things that helped me take care of myself a little bit. In a minute, I will take a shower, and then watch stupid TV with my girl. And that’s OK.

When I got in the car this morning to head over to Tonkadale Greenhouse, I turned the radio on as I always do. The first thing I heard was the line “…only the good die young,” by Rich’s favorite artist, Billy Joel. You may remember that that song title was the theme of his Celebration of Life invitation.

Thanks, Rich, for reaching out this morning. I miss you, and will always love you.

Happy Anniversary.

Back to School, Back to Date Nights!

When Singer Girl went back to school in August, we realized it was time to kick date nights back into gear. It’s harder now, in some ways, to find wild, new, interesting things to do. I mean, the world is kinda shut down, so options are fewer. That just means we have to dig a little deeper. But hey: every little outing feels like a gala ball when you are starved for social interaction!

In September we tried several new places, while still finding time to visit a few treasured faves. The first weekend of the month we were in Madeline, and I covered that last post. The next week we had two date nights, one picked by me, the other by him.

First up: my turn! On Thursday night we did a double appointment with my acupuncturist, Kate at Peak Life Clinic. Ironically, HWSNBN is the one who got me started with the needle life, but he’d never been himself. So our date nights worked well to get him there (remember the rules: one person plans, and the other has no say!). Afterwards we visited Cast and Cru restaurant, where we haven’t been in far too long. It’s weird seeing the Old Log Theater quiet. We also realized that this winter Cast and Cru probably won’t open up the little cabin bar we enjoyed squeezing into last year. But a well-poured cocktail from the C & C bartenders does help dull that pain!

For our anniversary, HWSNBN took the lead. He has always liked basing gifts and celebrations on the “traditional” gift guides for anniversaries. The gift for 26 years is evidently photography, so we wandered around some lovely galleries in Minneapolis looking for a lovely piece of art to put on our sadly barren walls. Some of the places we enjoyed included the Groveland Gallery and Galeria do Beija Flor.

One of the best parts about exploring the world on foot is getting lost and finding treasures. One such place was the amazing Brickmania.

We caught sight of the amazing Lego reconstructions of the USS Missouri. Cannot wait to bring Sailor Boy here some day. He will geek out, just like we did.

One of our favorite crazy places to shop is Architectural Antiques. I mean, from door knobs to church pews, bowling alleys to antique crystal chandeliers, they’ve got it. We have bought many special things here over the years — like our copper front door, and the stained glass double doors on HWSNBN’s office. We didn’t buy anything today, but oh, man, did I want to!

We also enjoyed a jaunt around the Minneapolis Sculpture Garden.

Afterwards it was dinner at PS Steak, then we stayed the night at the cooler-than-us Hewing Hotel.

The next weekend I had a puppy party for work so we borrowed a couple of puppies to be our arm candy at Excelsior Brewing Company, our fave neighborhood beer joint.

The next day we double dated with our friends Matt and Kristy, and hit a few breweries and wineries out west.

The next weekend, the last in September, our weekend was a little busy so we couldn’t do much just the two of us. But we managed to squeeze in a PHENOMENAL meal at Vann Restaurant, a place we’d never yet tried.

That food was simply elegant and delightful!

As I write this we’ve already done a few fun October date nights, but TBH it’s gonna get harder with the double whammy of COVID-19 and a Minnesota winter. But we’ll prevail!

Oh: and stay tuned for a super exciting post in a day or so!!!

Two weeks! (and my lighting is pretty)

Today was fun — only one panicked Super Bill text today (which way did we way the floor to run in the kids’ rooms — don’t care…)!  Met Rich at the house tonight to see the changes, and as a segue out to dinner for our 20th anniversary. Surprise!  He had smuggled our card table, china, silver and candlesticks to the house, ordered a beautiful dinner from Ike’s, and it was fabulous.  So fun to have our first meal in the new digs!

So all the kitchen appliances arrived today, but they aren’t installed yet.  Lighting is about 90% installed, plumbing is at the 70% mark.  Shoe molding is going in, landscaping grading has begun, and my closet is done.  The kids’ floor looks great, BTW!  

What will tomorrow bring?

 

Dusty laundry room counter and sink

Dusty laundry room counter and sink

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